Popular Nigerian OAP and socialite, Toke Makinwa has sent out a stern warning to those who use the term ‘dear’ when addressing her.
In a series of tweets on her page, Toke Makinwa said that only people who are allowed to use the term ‘dear’ when addressing are those who find themselves in her circles or living with her.
She also noted that her friends are also permitted to refer to by that term and argued that ‘sis and bro’ have been abused.
Nothing makes me cringe as much as hearing a younger person use “dear” to address me,even worse if we are not friendly, stop using endearing words for people who are not in your circle, who is your “dear”? Use my name or just say hello/hi, you don’t know me that well.
I am not so big on respect but if there’s a good 15 years between us and I am not your buddy, just say hi/hello or use my name, endearments are sometimes too familiar or is it the African in me jumping out, I’m open to this discussion I’ll pick darling over “dear”. Maybe I just don’t like that word.
Again only if we are familiar. Maybe I’m not “western” enough, perhaps I need more westernizationAnother one, why do we sis a lot? Is calling someone by their name really against our culture? Why do we like to use sis or bro a lot?
It’s not really about the age but more the “familiarity”, if we are not buddies, in the same circle, living together I’ll just preferred if words of endearments such as “dear” are left outside our interactions